For all the clichés about women not being in the mood, men actually get turned off just as easily as we do. What you may NOT be admitting is that perhaps you’re the culprit for his waning interest.
Not sure if you’ve turned off his ardor with your annoying behavior? Below are three signs that YOU are what’s wrong (and how to fix it):
1. You’re texting or call him constantly (especially at his work).
You want to know if he picked up the dry cleaning this morning. So, you call your husband. Later, you want to know when his parents are coming into town. So, you text your husband. Toss in a few more intrusions into his day. And you’re doing all of this while he’s at work? If so — stop!
Men are creatures who want and need require a great deal of focus. They define their success by their results and “focus” is their special skill for achieving those results … so they compartmentalize. Which means, when your husband is at work you’re probably not on his mind. Get over it!
By constantly contacting him you’re therefore become an annoying distraction. It’s poor relationship communication and in his mind you’re nagging him or mothering him — either way, he doesn’t want to have s*x with a shrew nor with his mother.
If it’s critical that you reach him during the workday, find out when his lunch break is with a short (i.e. four word) text and ask to speak with him then.
Remember, what women seem to say in five sentences, men would rather hear in five words (and without the parade of emoticons). If he is open to making lunch plans with you, even better! But, let him suggest it. Otherwise, don’t disrupt his day unless absolutely necessary. Respect his time.