Psychologists and marriage counselors often claim that lack of good sex moments could lead to divorce. They also note that if there is no sexual intimacy in marriage, it could make the ‘wanting partner’ cheat on the other. But what if a spouse now keeps demanding for sex often? Some Nigerians spoke with SATURDAY PUNCH on the issue
Teju Akinrinola: She has to think of something elseSince it’s one of my matrimonial duties to have sex with her, I don’t have a choice than to satisfy her. I cannot ignore her when she approaches me for it. However, addiction is a disease and I will help her by communicating to her that sexual addiction can ruin our lives. Talking to her is the best way to handle the situation. I’ll let her know she needs to focus her mind on how to develop herself intellectually instead of thinking about sex every time. If she’s unemployed, I’ll buy her literatures that will keep her busy and keep her mind off sex.
Segun Banjo: Too much sex can damage the brain
As pleasant as sex is, it is not food that should be consumed every day. Too much of everything is bad. I don’t like the idea of having sex every day as if our lives depend on it. There are other things in marriage that should engage one’s mind, not sex alone. I will let her understand my view on this issue and hopefully, she should agree with me. The bottom line is: sex is good, but too much of it can damage the brain.
Mark Ogudu: I must satisfy her
It is even better that she is the one demanding for it. Assuming I’m the one who keeps demanding for sex in such manner, she may think I’m promiscuous. She may also think I’m not considerate. But now that she is the one asking for it, I will satisfy her. If sex will make her not to look elsewhere and be fulfilled maritally, I must not disappoint her. She is my wife and so there’s nothing wrong with this issue.
Babarinsa Olusola: I pray God should give her a job
It’s only an unemployed woman that will like sex to the point of addiction. Extremity of anything is a disease and I will not allow that in my home. An average career woman in Lagos, who wakes up around 4am in order to beat the traffic, thinking of how to go about her job for the day, and coming home late in the night, will not have the time to think of sex every time. It’s not too good a lifestyle, but there must be balance in everything one does. I will pray that God should also provide my wife a job that will make her think less of sex.
Williams Amosun: I’ll give it to her
I know some men who complain of their wives’ addiction to their careers, thereby giving them little or no opportunity of having romantic moments together. I don’t want such a woman. I would rather prefer a wife who demands sex often from me to the one who I have to beg before we can have sex. So if my wife always wants sex, I must be ready to give it to her. In fact, I will be glad. Moments with one’s wife in bed are to be desired by every man.
Akanbi Yetunde: It’s good to please my husbandNo chance should be given for my husband to be tempted by other women outside there. One thing is, if I begin cautioning him and not making myself available for him, he may start to look elsewhere. Meanwhile, there are so many ladies that can be described as roaring lions looking for men to devour. If I restrain myself, they could jump at him. They would give him gladly and I will be the one to suffer in the long run. Hence, I will not hesitate to have sex with my husband anytime he wants. For Christ’s sake, he’s my husband!
Well, like they say, too much of everything is bad. What will you do if your spouse is addicted to sex? Will you run, or will you give?